Been asked for my opinion (in phone calls and PMs I’ve gotten) and I’ve pointed out that I’ve tried to not comment on ‘the’ cover directly (I’m sure I slipped up somewhere! Gotta be honest, I giggle so hard every time I see it that it’s hard to put a thought together). My entire point, my near-constant argument in life, is that people get to have opinions… and by people, I mean “women”.
Short version: most women are terrified to speak out loud and express an opinion. They are utterly petrified to do so when they are addressing issues of women, sexism and feminism. The internet has emboldened women to speak out more—but it has also enabled men to easily put more effort into silencing them, or threatening them into silence. When I say “terrified” I mean TERRIFIED. All of you were able to grasp how horrible it was when Janelle Assellin wrote about the death and rape threats she gets…none of you seem to get that the constant onslaught of mockery, sneering and general disrespect is equally exhausting. (Do consider, gentlemen: You find a woman daring to criticise a working comics pro or illustrator as “disrespectful”, appalling, etc. but you have utterly no problem with mocking her or her defenders across the internet and starting memes to continue that mocking. She’s not entitled to her opinion…so she’s entitled to YOURS telling her that.) Most women I know fear having that spill into public encounters with these men, and having to work or socialise in now-toxic environments. To that end, I have had many private talks with women genuinely upset with the online discussion about the cover, or the levels of vitriol found in the social media accounts of men, even comics pros, they admire. Thus, they are fearful to engage.
The first argument is, of course, that YOU are equally entitled to your opinion.
Thank you so much for this, Keiren! Your support and explanations really mean a lot to me. I’m reblogging this in both my main tumblr and lesstitsnass.
Also a big thank you to Yanick Paquette, who pointed me towards this post in Facebook, and revised his stance about the situation after reaching out to me and chatting. The positive feedback REALLY outweighs the negative crap I’ve been getting, and I’m grateful for each and every piece of constructive commentary I’ve been receiving (yes, even the ones that disagree with me, if the issue is about the topic at hand, not on my person or other derailing tactics).
This is how criticism works, people. I commented about a piece that I thought was a problem in its posing. People who’ve disagreed with me by sending me 3D models showing the pose are actually arguing for the validity of the anatomy, and these are VALID CRITICISMS of my own criticisms. YES. This is how it works. I will comment on these as soon as I can, but first I have 5 pages of script left to storyboard on this episode, and I want to deliver tonight. Yay deadlines!